2 of my closest friends have birthdays at the end of March, one day after the other. This often means I feel like I never get to give either of them the complete attention they deserve as my mind is always still a little in “go mode” for the other. As these friends don’t know one another, a group thing just doesn’t work either.
As a matter of fact, I have so many birthdays in my life from December to March, I find I am almost relieved to check the last one off the list and take a break! I have 6 in February, and 6 in March, then let’s not forget to add in Galentines, Valentines and Easter into the mix too! It’s a pretty busy time of year to say the least and it requires me to be locked and loaded early.
I have a running list of names, what gifts they are getting for Christmas, when we are catching up for the festive season, birthday gifts, what we are doing to celebrate their special day and when, plus notes on what to write in each of the cards associated with the occasion. I have to keep a running list of ideas because it means basically buying 2 gifts and writing in 2 cards in fairly quick succession, plus planning any events, especially if it is someone’s 50th or some other big celebration.
Sometimes I find it all a bit overwhelming and I am actually a bit burnt out by the time their birthday’s roll around. I never want to give either of these friends the impression that their birthdays are an inconvenience, although when they both suggest the same night to celebrate that might be precisely how they feel when the negotiations begin! And I always feel endlessly guilty that although I am showing up and planning and doing all I can, that each of their celebrations seems somewhat overshadowed by the other.
So as their birthdays are in a few days, I wanted to publicly post how meaningful they are to me. In order of their birthday’s not in order of preference or importance!
Lisa,
Our long late night conversations, or endless phone calls about all the crazy thoughts we each have mean the world to me. Nobody understands my crazy quite like you do. Our monthly dinners are always a highlight and I love hearing about all the things, big and small going on in your world. It has been a pleasure growing with you, watching our friendship evolve through different phases over the years and watching you finally settle into the happiness you now radiate. You are a deep and kind and beautiful soul. I am so glad we met and maintained our connection through it all. I know that no matter what I am going through, I can always turn to you for endless listening, support and advice… and that you will be patient and understanding even when I don’t take said sound advice. I always feel loved by you, and I hope you always feel loved right back. I wish you as much happiness as you have brought me over the years for your birthday and every day. I can’t wait to celebrate it with you, and watch your face light up as it always does with whatever gifts you receive. I might be tired, but I am never tired of you or too tired for you. I look forward to celebrating you. Thank you for your friendship, it is the only gift we need. Lots of love xxx
Bel,
From the moment I met you, I knew that you were going to be special to me. I knew you were smart and kind, but I had no idea just how funny and fun you were. What a delight to find all our time together spent laughing. Our in jokes are next level and I always enjoy our time together. Thank you for the past 10 years of making memories, of love and laughter. In that time you have grown to be an important part of my family, and an even more important part of your own. Nothing is ever too much for you and I admire how generously you give of your time and services to the people you love. Your life has been on a journey and while it hasn’t always been an easy path, and your destination is still unknown, it has been an honour to walk beside you, and watch you smile no matter what. Your laugh is infectious and lights up any room, and your smile is my favourite thing to see. So many meals, movies, motels and massages. Gambling and giggling. Sarcasm and shopping. Your friendship has been an exciting experience, there is never a dull moment with you. While your birthday is among the last of the madness, you give me the energy to come to the party with all the stops and you make doing so worth it. Thanks for loving, not just me, but my family too. I hope this year brings me the privilege of returning that and many other favours. I know it will be filled with love and laughter if we are together. Love you longtime xx
I probably love these 2 friends precisely because they were born so close together. It was written in the stars. We are all fire signs! Not everyone can handle the heat, but these are 2 friendships I hope continue burning as bright as the sun for as long as it shines bright in our sky. Although they are fundamentally different friends, who meet fundamentally different and opposite needs of mine, there is no comparison or competition. I love each equally to the other and I know each of them loves me.
Although I often complain about what I call the March Madness, I wouldn’t have it any other way. All this means is that I am blessed with enough wonderful people for a madhatters tea party and maybe I should consider that for next year!
In the meantime, I have presents to wrap and cards to write and bookings to make. I have easter hunts to plan and shopping to do! So that’s it from me for this week folks! I will keep it short and sweet for Easter next week, so see you after a little break from broadcasting in April!
❤ Love,
Your Best Friend ForNever
xx
