Well folks it is that spooky time of year again, when we dress up as zombies and give away sugary treats to the scariest kids in the neighbourhood. Even better if you have a best friend to co-costume with (check out last year’s ideas here!) and share in the sugar. But sometimes having a best friend is the scariest thing of all. Here is why!
1. They know what you look like, not to mention smell like, first thing in the morning, without your hair and face products. They know you; warts and all, your inner demons… and Halloween ain’t got nothing on those!
2. They know all your secrets, and nothing but good vibes between you are stopping them from revealing your inner truths to all and sundry. You hope things stay sweeter than the Halloween treats between you, or things could get ugly fast!
3. They are not tied to you in any way. Ok, unless your best friend also happens to be a sibling or a parent, this person could leave you one day and how would you cope without them? They are the only person who knows how to cheer you up on a bad day, or always knows, (without saying,) what you will order from the menu. Sometimes someone who knows you so well they can see through you, is the scariest thing, because they could act like Casper and ghost at any moment, and you just have to trust that they won’t!
4. They might change into someone you don’t like anymore. This is real and it happens, but usually you grow and change together, while still allowing yourselves the freedoms to explore individuality and try on different personas as the years go on. Believing in different things, or not sharing similar interests or values don’t have to be deal breakers, as long as you don’t pressure each other to be the same as one another, or not to change at all. Try to love each new person your friend becomes, even if you don’t always like parts of them.
5. They have expectations of you! Friendships are our first non-familial bonds where we learn to think about others and show we care just because. This is a wonderful reciprocal thing, but then sometimes we stuff up and let them down, because they expected more of us. It is scary knowing that they have expectations of us because that guarantees eventually you will have conflict and need to resolve it. One of the scariest things on earth for some people!
6. They hold us accountable. Sure, friends support you and lift you up and celebrate you, but they also let you know when you’re being selfish, unreasonable or shady. And seeing a less than pretty image of ourselves in the eyes of others is terrifying, but especially in the eyes of people we trust, value and respect. Ironically, facing our flaws and self-improvement is only made better by their support though, so don’t shy away from critique if it comes from a good place and know that the tables will inevitably turn.
Everything in friendship is a two-way street. The longer you ride together, the more unknown doors you’ll walk through; monsters under the bed you’ll be scared of; skeletons in closets you’ll discover, and ghosts from long ago you’ll encounter! Having a best friend is scary because you care so much!
So, enjoy your Halloween sugary treats together, enjoy the experience and have fun dressing up and roaming the streets, but more than that, pay tribute to the fact that your friendship is both one of the scariest and the sweetest parts of your life!!
Read this post 3 times and it will be 666 – the devil’s number…… SPOOKY?! Hahahaha Rolls eyes. I tried!
Happy Halloween Folks!
❤ Love,
Your Best Friend ForNever
xx
